Quick story time…
I met this guy when I was flying back and forth to Hartford
last month. Super cool guy with a
similar lifestyle to mine. After
chatting it up on the plane, he asked for my info and he’d been in touch via
text for the most part. So in
conversation last week, he asks me what I’m ultimately looking for…marriage, to
have fun, etc. I told him I definitely want
to be a wife and a mom…added that “I’m a traditional girl.” Then like a whole 24 hours later (so you KNOW buddy
had been marinating on this all day), he asks me, “So when you say you’re a ‘traditional
girl,’ does that mean no sex before marriage?”
I confirm that that’s what it means.
He tells me that’s great…that he aspires to the same. Then in the same breath, he says that he
tells women that if no sex is their focus, he’s probably not the guy they want
to date. Well, he just feels like he shouldn’t have to
be deprived if someone before him wasn’t so deprived. Not to mention that so many other women would
be here for it. *blank stare* Needless to say, I haven’t
heard from him since…
I thought so before, but I think that exchange solidified to me just how big of a dealbreaker premarital sex is to a
lot of guys. Almost like an entitlement. Many guys seem so willing to forego the rest of the process with a suitable life mate if sex is not on the table. I’d say at least 90% of guys I’ve dated fall off because of this. It’s pretty discouraging because, for me, the sex is not the issue. I’m not perfect…I’ve compromised quite a bit here. I’ll never be mad at a guy for wanting
to have sex because I want to have sex, too. God gave us this desire. But more
than that, I really want to please God…and I want a guy who wants to strive with me in doing so. That kind of man…the kind who loves God more…he is scarce. I’m not waiting for perfection…Just someone who wants God’s way most.
I feel like such a unicorn.
No real conclusion or deepness to this. I’m just kind of tired. All of the puns. I won’t stop waiting on God, though. For whatever He wants to do here.